You have probably been in a similar situation. You wanted something really bad for a rather long period of time until you were finally able to do it or to have it and then someone comes along and says something that gives you a bad conscience. A bad conscience because of what might happen when you actually do it or have it whatever it is you have been waiting for and dreaming of for so long.
In case you guessed that this is about our eventual move back to the States, you are absolutely right.
After announcing the news about the job offer to our families and some close friends we got so many different reactions. Some of them were really happy for us/ with us, because they know how much we want this and they know how long we have been waiting for an opportunity like this. Some reactions were more on the critical side because of everything we would have to give up here in Germany in order to live our dream and the obstacles we would have to face yet once again.
And then there were the reactions from my sister and my SIL. Both of them said the exact same thing when we told them about our plans. They both asked what would be if something happened to one of our parents with us being thousands of miles away. Neither of them failed to let me know how old our parents are and what could happen to them in the near future. Could happen, not will happen.
We told them that we'd be on the next plane in case something happened and they needed us. I would never let my family down - I love them and I will always be there for them no matter where I am. But does that mean that I have to live a life that best suits them? Does that mean I have to give up on my dream to stay here, closer to my family just in case something bad happened? Now that we have this extra ordinary once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to go where we so desire?
Ever since then I have been going back and forth in my mind whether or not to go, what to decide and if we decided to live our dream would I regret it afterward. Oh, if only I weren't such an emotional and sentimental.
Why are they trying to give us a bad conscience? Why don't they see how important this is for us?
Have you been in a similar situation? How did you decide? Did you follow your dream?