I have this one co-worker, she's a talker. She talks a lot. Really. A. Lot. All the time. It makes it hard to concentrate on my work sometimes. Like when I have to read an email I am about to send out over and over again because I am not sure what I even wrote. That much.
She talks about her kids - teenagers - her husband who seems to suffer from depression (can you blame him?!), at least that's what she told me. She talks about her parents, about her siblings and her neighbor. She talks about herself and then she starts all over again. She talks to everyone all the time. No matter who enters our office, she will tell that person the same story she just told me and then the next person as well. And so on. I guess you get the picture. She is a loud talker. Very loud.
It's even worse when she's on the phone. I think she wants to try to bridge the distance between her self and the person on the other end and yells into the phone. She's also a fast talker. Sometimes it's hard to even keep up with her story. The volume and the speed paired together make for a nerve-wrecking conversation - though it's more of a monologue than a conversation. To converse means that at least 2 people are involved...here it's just her.
I am a listener. I am a good listener and I tend to make others feel as though I was the perfect person to share all of their thoughts, fears, worries and so on with. And that's ok. Don't get me wrong. I like to listen. That way you have the chance to get to know the other person better. To learn about them and maybe even take something away from it to benefit yourself. I really enjoy listening. BUT, at some point it's just enough. Or too much. Or enough and too much. Because, let's be honest here - regarding the fact that it's about taking and giving, sometimes we need a good listener ourselves. Someone we can pour our heart out to. Someone who doesn't judge us in the way we didn't judge them. Am I right or am I right?
I feel as though I am stuck being the listener. Always and everywhere. Do you know someone who tends to over share all the time? How do you respond to them? How do you make them listen to your thoughts?